Speech or silence? Silence has its advantages: it teaches us to listen patiently. Equally, language can be healing, and help us to share our truth.
Processing negative emotions is essential. It stops us from ‘acting out’ – throwing our emotions onto others without understanding. We can become more free. We can ask for what we want without causing conflict.
People-pleasing, playing by other people’s rules, is tiring, and may not lead to happiness.
If you are suffering from anxiety, try not to suffer alone. There are things you can do to help yourself.
Arguments escalate because we cannot wait to get our words in. Simple accepting that the other has spoken is a powerful tool for peace.
We have great intentions, but untamed minds. The art of counselling is to work with honesty and subtlety to harness the mind, and re-engage with the world afresh.