How do we choose a therapist? And how do we know when therapy is going well?
Avoidant behaviour has its roots in survival. But, in modern society, it can tie us up in loneliness.
Through therapy, we can listen to inner feelings that have been neglected for years.
To feel secure in our relationships, we have to manage our biology, our inner idea of what a good relationship looks like, and our relationship with ourselves.
Emotional blackmail attempts to control a person by leveraging their caring reputation. Standing up to it requires firmness.
When our older, animal brain gets anxious, we have a choice. We can leave panic to spiral out of control.
Or we can use our newer, cerebral brain to intervene with more peaceful stories.