Often, we block other people’s development by being narrow-minded. We can empower others by getting out of their way, and listening to their story as they tell it.
If we need to be right all the time, then we may get our own way. But, in the process, we may miss the chance to help others and make friends.
Part of mental health is responding appropriately to our own suffering, keeping faith in our ability to take corrective action.
Our early carers can act as a behaviour mirror for us. Where that mirror was distorted, counselling and psychotherapy can help in adulthood.
Person-centred counselling approaches psychological therapy from the point of view that we are all capable of developing ourselves, given sympathetic conditions.
We can nurse our pain, but without a plan, that pain will repeat itself.