Anger and anxiety are based on an illusory, egoic view of the self. If we can lose this false sense of self, we can reduce our anxiety and anger.
We make ourselves suffer when we (1) put our ‘self’ before others, (2) fear loss to that invented ‘self’, and (3) pin the blame on someone else.
Selfishness is one of the great causes of suffering, and learning to value others can be a great source of happiness.
Do you make others responsible for you, instead of being responsible for yourself?
What if the ‘self’ you obsessively defend were a myth? What if you could drop your worries about finance and relationships? What if you could just ‘be’, peacefully?
The paradox of selfishness is that we are defending a self that doesn’t really exist. Once we realise the emptiness of the self, we can lose our defensiveness, and find greater peace.