We make ourselves suffer when we (1) put our ‘self’ before others, (2) fear loss to that invented ‘self’, and (3) pin the blame on someone else.
Do you make others responsible for you, instead of being responsible for yourself?
What if the ‘self’ you obsessively defend were a myth? What if you could drop your worries about finance and relationships? What if you could just ‘be’, peacefully?
The paradox of selfishness is that we are defending a self that doesn’t really exist. Once we realise the emptiness of the self, we can lose our defensiveness, and find greater peace.
We are often trapped in dependence on excessive debt, unstable relationships, and unsuitable jobs. Even so, it is possible to let go.
Wanting presupposes that we do not have things as we would like them to be. It therefore implies dissatisfaction with the status quo. When we