When we are hurt by relationships, it is usually our ego finding it difficult to cope with the possibility of loss. If we can learn to let go of our ego, we can be free to love without pain.
Being authentic requires skill. We are like carpenters. Our inner values and feelings are our raw materials, but we need to use the tools of wisdom to produce the useful furniture of our behaviour.
We don’t have to be grand in our giving. Even small acts of kindness can have great consequences.
Selfishness is one of the great causes of suffering, and learning to value others can be a great source of happiness.
We can use our silences, and our speech, for good or ill. It takes a lot of mindfulness, and a lot of skill, to learn a good balance between self-control and self-expression.
There are three things you can do, at any time, to build more intimacy into your relationships.