To feel secure in our relationships, we have to manage our biology, our inner idea of what a good relationship looks like, and our relationship with ourselves.

To feel secure in our relationships, we have to manage our biology, our inner idea of what a good relationship looks like, and our relationship with ourselves.
We are lonely and fearful, and so we construct identities around us. But they are illusory. In contrast, when we stop trying to control everything, and just attend, our suffering falls away.
We all like adventure and progress. The trouble is, we also like security and sameness. We can get the best of both worlds by designing our lives well.
We all want to be secure. But we also want freedom. An inability to manage transition between these two extremes is the basis for much anxiety.
With the pandemic increasing mental health issues around the world, what can we do to lighten the load and improve our own mental health?