Sometimes we need to listen to ourselves, and empathise with the ‘little voices’, the suffering parts of ourselves that want to be heard, and perhaps to grow into something wonderful.
People-pleasing, playing by other people’s rules, is tiring, and may not lead to happiness.
Selfishness is one of the great causes of suffering, and learning to value others can be a great source of happiness.
Can we overcome our own neediness? Can we escape our fear of rejection and failure? Absolutely. But it may take a change of thinking.
Do you make others responsible for you, instead of being responsible for yourself?
What if the ‘self’ you obsessively defend were a myth? What if you could drop your worries about finance and relationships? What if you could just ‘be’, peacefully?