Self-sabotage could be described as a fault in the way we handle actions and consequences. We tend to blame life, rather than adapting our own behaviour.
Worry is part of our lives, but it need not be excessive. We need to learn to walk off the grey pavements, and into the woods.
It is natural to want to be happy. If we find ourselves unhappy, we have a choice. Do we get angry and blame others? Or do we take responsibility for our own happiness?
Sometimes we need to listen to ourselves, and empathise with the ‘little voices’, the suffering parts of ourselves that want to be heard, and perhaps to grow into something wonderful.
People-pleasing, playing by other people’s rules, is tiring, and may not lead to happiness.
Selfishness is one of the great causes of suffering, and learning to value others can be a great source of happiness.