Agreeable people can suffer from too much pleasing of others, and too little of what brings them joy.

Agreeable people can suffer from too much pleasing of others, and too little of what brings them joy.
We are born into certain ready-made arguments, but life throws curve-balls at us. If we are wise, we learn to modify those arguments in the light of our suffering.
When others won’t speak to us, we should remember that the ‘won’t’ is in our heads, not theirs.
Do we always accept the feelings flowing through us? Or do we hold them prisoner, locking them away and refusing to let them flow?
It is true that anxiety is an understandable response to a difficult life. But we shouldn’t make the mistake of thinking there is nothing we can do. We can still reduce our anxiety with self-care.
We do not just attend to people and events in discrete blocks of time. Relating is more like a wave, moving between times of peak presence, and times of distance, like breathing in and out.