We are self-correcting beings, and, to this end, the ability to perceive losses, and receive warnings, is programmed into us. The trouble is, over-anticipating loss leads to anxiety, and ultimately, when exhausted, to depression.
Behavioural change is possible – it just needs a careful, methodical approach to time and life management… and some disciplined use of the diary.
What limitations and restrictions in your life might you reframe as useful structures?
Speech or silence? Silence has its advantages: it teaches us to listen patiently. Equally, language can be healing, and help us to share our truth.
Processing negative emotions is essential. It stops us from ‘acting out’ – throwing our emotions onto others without understanding. We can become more free. We can ask for what we want without causing conflict.
People-pleasing, playing by other people’s rules, is tiring, and may not lead to happiness.