We can grow up silent and bottled up, or verbose and self-defensive. Counselling can help us to find more moderate ways to communicate and behave.
From birth, our lives are a question of negotiation. Sometimes we get what we want, sometimes we don’t. How we handle the balance of this is critical to our happiness.
Which bits of your life are you taking personal responsibility for? And which are you delegating to others to sort out? Have you got the balance right?
What limitations and restrictions in your life might you reframe as useful structures?
If you get frustrated every time your wishes are blocked, you are setting yourself up for misery. To be happy, it helps to develop alternative responses.
Do you make others responsible for you, instead of being responsible for yourself?