Blaming perpetuates a cycle of anger and irritability. In contrast, we can increase our own happiness if we can stop finding fault with others, and instead encourage a climate of accountability.
It is natural that we are self-defensive, seeking to blame others. But it is also counterproductive. By learning to ‘be with’ peacefully, we can break the cycle of suffering, starting with ourselves.
Our fascination with strong leaders is partly a projection of our own desire to get control of our lives. But we don’t need to look ‘out there’, if we can competently become our own bosses.