“If you are a people-pleaser, then I would like you, just for today, to have a holiday from the oppression that can sometimes result from your relationship with judgers. I’d like you to do some things that work for you, in a way that works for you.”
Balancing gentleness with assertiveness
Sometimes we need to be gentle, and sometimes we need to assert ourselves. Being adaptable is the key.
Being more assertive
Assertiveness is a moderate way of influencing people and events, more engaged than avoidance, and less invasive than aggression.
Self-acceptance, self-assertion and self-promotion
In our approach to self-development, we can work passively (e.g. on self-acceptance), or actively (e.g. on self-assertion or self-promotion).
Standing up for yourself
Even if gentle, we need to stand up for ourselves to be wise.
Despair, the loss of hope, is a transitional state on the way to acceptance. It shows that we have wishes and desires. As we age, that transition often becomes easier.
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