“If you are a people-pleaser, then I would like you, just for today, to have a holiday from the oppression that can sometimes result from your relationship with judgers. I’d like you to do some things that work for you, in a way that works for you.”
Tag: Assertiveness
Balancing gentleness with assertiveness
Sometimes we need to be gentle, and sometimes we need to assert ourselves. Being adaptable is the key.
Being more assertive
Assertiveness is a moderate way of influencing people and events, more engaged than avoidance, and less invasive than aggression.
Self-acceptance, self-assertion and self-promotion
In our approach to self-development, we can work passively (e.g. on self-acceptance), or actively (e.g. on self-assertion or self-promotion).
Standing up for yourself
Even if gentle, we need to stand up for ourselves to be wise.
Despair
Despair, the loss of hope, is a transitional state on the way to acceptance. It shows that we have wishes and desires. As we age, that transition often becomes easier.
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