Processing negative emotions is essential. It stops us from ‘acting out’ – throwing our emotions onto others without understanding. We can become more free. We can ask for what we want without causing conflict.
Selfishness is one of the great causes of suffering, and learning to value others can be a great source of happiness.
When we blame chaotically, we are very disturbed by others. When we organise our response, things become clearer and more peaceful.
The paradox of selfishness is that we are defending a self that doesn’t really exist. Once we realise the emptiness of the self, we can lose our defensiveness, and find greater peace.
It is natural that we are self-defensive, seeking to blame others. But it is also counterproductive. By learning to ‘be with’ peacefully, we can break the cycle of suffering, starting with ourselves.
It takes a lot to hear others speak their truth. But, in doing so, we are helping ourselves, as well as them, to find meaning in our lives.