The roots of anger are natural; but we can definitely manage our lives better to reduce it.
It is natural to want to be happy. If we find ourselves unhappy, we have a choice. Do we get angry and blame others? Or do we take responsibility for our own happiness?
Processing negative emotions is essential. It stops us from ‘acting out’ – throwing our emotions onto others without understanding. We can become more free. We can ask for what we want without causing conflict.
Selfishness is one of the great causes of suffering, and learning to value others can be a great source of happiness.
When we blame chaotically, we are very disturbed by others. When we organise our response, things become clearer and more peaceful.
The paradox of selfishness is that we are defending a self that doesn’t really exist. Once we realise the emptiness of the self, we can lose our defensiveness, and find greater peace.