When we argue, we try to make ourselves right and the other person wrong. But, instead of helping, this urge to polarise actually perpetuates conflict. True happiness lies in being happy to be neither right nor wrong, to just be.
We make ourselves suffer when we (1) put our ‘self’ before others, (2) fear loss to that invented ‘self’, and (3) pin the blame on someone else.
People-pleasing, playing by other people’s rules, is tiring, and may not lead to happiness.
Five tips for encouraging cooperation in your life.
Selfishness is one of the great causes of suffering, and learning to value others can be a great source of happiness.
Being criticised is part of life. If we’re going to be happy, we’d better learn to cope with hearing criticism, and even welcoming it.