To be authentic, we may need to expose ourselves to rejection and unwelcome attention.
Often, we block other people’s development by being narrow-minded. We can empower others by getting out of their way, and listening to their story as they tell it.
As a source of motivation, compassion has a number of advantages. But we also need to manage wisely our other motivations.
If we need to be right all the time, then we may get our own way. But, in the process, we may miss the chance to help others and make friends.
When we are hurt by relationships, it is usually our ego finding it difficult to cope with the possibility of loss. If we can learn to let go of our ego, we can be free to love without pain.
Assertiveness is a moderate way of influencing people and events, more engaged than avoidance, and less invasive than aggression.