Even if gentle, we need to stand up for ourselves to be wise.
There will always be more selfish and more selfless behaviour. Selfless people need to learn to manage the selfish ones.
The ‘pain body’ is a little monster inside us that wants to feed on a sense of personal suffering and insult.
By treating others as special, and being curious about them, we can escape our own selfishness.
We get too protective over our ‘self image’. The ‘self’ we are protecting may not even exist.
Managing our reputation is reasonable. But we can become excessively self-protective, and fall out socially. We can train ourselves into better habits.