As a personal motivation, research suggests that thinking of others seems to be the most healthy attitude. However, self-care, and keeping our critical wits about us, are also essential, to make sure we don’t get taken advantage of.
Even if gentle, we need to stand up for ourselves to be wise.
There will always be more selfish and more selfless behaviour. Selfless people need to learn to manage the selfish ones.
The ‘pain body’ is a little monster inside us that wants to feed on a sense of personal suffering and insult.
By treating others as special, and being curious about them, we can escape our own selfishness.
We get too protective over our ‘self image’. The ‘self’ we are protecting may not even exist.