In our approach to self-development, we can work passively (e.g. on self-acceptance), or actively (e.g. on self-assertion or self-promotion).
If we are just reactive, we are like animals, unable to master our own destiny. As humans, we can learn to master our responses, and act from a deeper place.
Psychology research suggests that creating new habits is best done by integrating new routines into your day.
Sometimes we need to listen to ourselves, and empathise with the ‘little voices’, the suffering parts of ourselves that want to be heard, and perhaps to grow into something wonderful.
Why do we sometimes get in the way of our own good intentions? Self-sabotage is hard to spot, because it can be unconscious.
Our fascination with strong leaders is partly a projection of our own desire to get control of our lives. But we don’t need to look ‘out there’, if we can competently become our own bosses.