When we argue, we try to make ourselves right and the other person wrong. But, instead of helping, this urge to polarise actually perpetuates conflict. True happiness lies in being happy to be neither right nor wrong, to just be.
People-pleasing, playing by other people’s rules, is tiring, and may not lead to happiness.
Being criticised is part of life. If we’re going to be happy, we’d better learn to cope with hearing criticism, and even welcoming it.
Are some of your relationships marked by resentment? Many people, especially after difficult times, forget to reintroduce gratitude and reward into their relationships.
Sometimes a helpless, unloved role has become a second skin, so that we cannot imagine there is another way to live. But there is. We are all able to initiate and negotiate help for ourselves, and love for ourselves.
There are good reasons not to share how we feel. But, if we learn to do so, we can be surprised by the relief it can bring.