In good relationships, we are responsible for our own happiness. But this doesn’t mean suffering in silence. We can also express our reasonable hopes and expectations.
Sometimes, by spending less energy trying to impress others, we can develop a more authentic, relaxed lifestyle.
Many of our relational triggers can be tracked back to three basic needs we have.
To feel secure in our relationships, we have to manage our biology, our inner idea of what a good relationship looks like, and our relationship with ourselves.
Seeking a new relationship can be fearful for someone with anxiety or depression. There is a logic to waiting, but there are also benefits of being open to something new.
When we argue, we are vulnerable. We need to take time to heal ourselves before we re-engage.