We can control anxiety by moderating our tendency to become attached to patterns and concepts that don’t suit.

We can control anxiety by moderating our tendency to become attached to patterns and concepts that don’t suit.
Our self-development depends on three things. Firstly, we need to make sure we are mentally healthy.
Secondly, we can then develop our personal skills. And thirdly, if we choose, we can learn to relate effectively with others.
We all have unresolved situations. Our job is to tell the difference between things we choose to do something about, and things we choose to get used to.
We deceive ourselves as a defence mechanism. We sacrifice mental clarity on the altar of temporary safety.
Despair, the loss of hope, is a transitional state on the way to acceptance. It shows that we have wishes and desires. As we age, that transition often becomes easier.
We are self-correcting beings, and, to this end, the ability to perceive losses, and receive warnings, is programmed into us. The trouble is, over-anticipating loss leads to anxiety, and ultimately, when exhausted, to depression.