“If you are a people-pleaser, then I would like you, just for today, to have a holiday from the oppression that can sometimes result from your relationship with judgers. I’d like you to do some things that work for you, in a way that works for you.”

“If you are a people-pleaser, then I would like you, just for today, to have a holiday from the oppression that can sometimes result from your relationship with judgers. I’d like you to do some things that work for you, in a way that works for you.”
Sometimes we need to be gentle, and sometimes we need to assert ourselves. Being adaptable is the key.
Agreeable people can suffer from too much pleasing of others, and too little of what brings them joy.
If we lack self-esteem, we may not feel able to influence others. However, starting with small situations, it is possible to build our confidence.
To be authentic, we may need to expose ourselves to rejection and unwelcome attention.
If we need to be right all the time, then we may get our own way. But, in the process, we may miss the chance to help others and make friends.