If we lack self-esteem, we may not feel able to influence others. However, starting with small situations, it is possible to build our confidence.
Category: Negotiating
Finding our authentic voice
To be authentic, we may need to expose ourselves to rejection and unwelcome attention.
Do you want to be right, or do you want to have friends?
If we need to be right all the time, then we may get our own way. But, in the process, we may miss the chance to help others and make friends.
Being more assertive
Assertiveness is a moderate way of influencing people and events, more engaged than avoidance, and less invasive than aggression.
Signposting
There are great relational advantages in signalling to others our values, intentions and identity. Not least, it helps us to enlist support and make space for ourselves.
Boundaries, order, and common understandings
Boundaries can be useful. But they can also be badly misused, even by therapists.
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