“If you are a people-pleaser, then I would like you, just for today, to have a holiday from the oppression that can sometimes result from your relationship with judgers. I’d like you to do some things that work for you, in a way that works for you.”
Balancing gentleness with assertiveness
Sometimes we need to be gentle, and sometimes we need to assert ourselves. Being adaptable is the key.
The price of being agreeable
Agreeable people can suffer from too much pleasing of others, and too little of what brings them joy.
Self-esteem and inconveniencing others
If we lack self-esteem, we may not feel able to influence others. However, starting with small situations, it is possible to build our confidence.
Finding our authentic voice
To be authentic, we may need to expose ourselves to rejection and unwelcome attention.
Do you want to be right, or do you want to have friends?
If we need to be right all the time, then we may get our own way. But, in the process, we may miss the chance to help others and make friends.
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