Self-sabotage could be described as a fault in the way we handle actions and consequences. We tend to blame life, rather than adapting our own behaviour.

Self-sabotage could be described as a fault in the way we handle actions and consequences. We tend to blame life, rather than adapting our own behaviour.
Worry is part of our lives, but it need not be excessive. We need to learn to walk off the grey pavements, and into the woods.
It is natural to want to be happy. If we find ourselves unhappy, we have a choice. Do we get angry and blame others? Or do we take responsibility for our own happiness?
Can we overcome our own neediness? Can we escape our fear of rejection and failure? Absolutely. But it may take a change of thinking.
It’s common to get the nagging feeling that you are not doing enough. Activity is healthy, of course it is. But the obsessive need to win (or to avoid losing) is a different thing, and can lead to prolonged unhappiness.
When choosing or developing your life path, do what you love. This is a subtle thing, and it is worth discussing, just to avoid misunderstanding.