We all need to exercise force to keep life OK. But sometimes, we also need to take sanctuary, and find a gentle flow instead.
We do not just attend to people and events in discrete blocks of time. Relating is more like a wave, moving between times of peak presence, and times of distance, like breathing in and out.
As humans, we are mixed beings. Half of us likes security, and half adventure. If we find ourselves clinging to security too much, there are a few things we can do to help ourselves accept change.
What can we do to lower our emotional temperature when attacked by acute anxiety?
We will always have slightly different priorities from our friends. But we can always show an interest.
Mental health involves being on good terms with others. This can involve trying to be attractive, or at least not offending. How far should we go in our efforts?