Invisible houses

We all have invisible houses in our minds; patterns and relationships we are building almost without realising it. Sometimes we only notice when they are damaged, and we feel wounded. Photo by Peter Herrmann on Unsplash

What invisible houses are you building?  Invisible houses are structures which we build for our future enjoyment, productivity and safety. 

How can they be invisible?  They are structures which we elevate relationally, between people and objects, which have no concrete form, but are definitely there in terms of patterns.

An example of an invisible house is a one-to-one relationship.  It has a roof (a joint sense of security).  It has warmth.  It has a garden (your joint area of outer growth).  It has a bedroom (personal intimacy).  And it has a kitchen (where you jointly generate inner growth).

Other examples of invisible houses include cultures, religions, unspoken understandings – anything which, in terms of design or relational hope, is constructed or understood to bring a combination of adventure and security.

What invisible houses have you created, or do you want to create?  We can notice them, because we are secretly disappointed when they get cracked or broken, and are secretly delighted when they get extended or made stronger.

It’s wise to make your invisible houses out of material that endures.  If you make them out of money, or unreliable people, then you are building on sand.  However, if you make them with a good understanding of what will last for ever, you will not be disappointed.

In the end, you may realise the whole universe is your quiet house, with quite enough adventure and security to last a lifetime.