Do you really want to change?

To make change, we have to get our hands dirty. Photo by jesse orrico on Unsplash

I spend much of my life helping others to realise their wishes for change.  Behavioural, mental, physical… all conscious change depends on an initial wish, followed by adaptive action.  If the wish were not followed by action, no change would ensue.

However, I sometimes observe a strange behaviour in humans.  We spend so much time wishing, and so little time changing.  It is as though we think that to wish is the same thing as to change.  We wish, and then we stop.  We then look around, and wonder why our self and our world have not changed.  The answer is sometimes that we have not really done anything to effect change.

Change is not magic, not usually.  There is hard work involved.  Some philosophies such as the ‘law of attraction’, commendable though they are, can be used as an excuse to position oneself with a wish, and then sit back and expect change to happen by magic.

But so much of our self-development happens through self-discipline and hard work.  Humans are creatures of habit, and we are also social animals.  We cannot wish for change, and then keep our habits and our relationships unchanged.  If we want change, then we need to sacrifice some of our comfort in the status quo.

Maybe, today, think of a change you want to make in your life.  Write it down.  Then think of one action you could do to start off that change process.  Write that down.  Then, importantly, do that first action.  Afterwards, diarise your next action.  Then repeat.  This time, instead of merely floating a wish that stays dormant in your head, you will have started a chain of action leading to change.